Navigating the world of business networking can be a formidable challenge for many, but for those of us who are neurodivergent, it often feels like a maze designed without us in mind. My journey through the business landscape, particularly as the proud owner of Wellbeing Whizz, has been a path of learning, adapting, and embracing my neurodivergence in environments that haven’t always felt welcoming or intuitive.
For those unfamiliar with the term, being neurodivergent means that the way my brain processes information and social interactions differs from what’s considered “neurotypical”. In my case, I’m autistic and awaiting an assessment for ADHD. This divergence isn’t just a footnote in my life; it shapes how I experience the world and engage with others, including in the realm of professional (and social) networking. Through my experiences, I’ve gathered insights and strategies that have helped me, and I hope they can serve as a beacon for others navigating similar paths.
Embracing Email as a Networking Tool
Early in my business journey, I discovered that direct email was a comfortable and effective way for me to initiate connections. This method allows me to thoughtfully engage with potential collaborators whose values and business goals resonate with mine. The beauty of email gives me the time to articulate my thoughts and intentions clearly, free from the immediate pressures that face-to-face interactions can sometimes impose. I haven’t always had a reply to my emails, and sometimes this can feel a bit of a blow. Neurodivergent folk are more likely to experience something called rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD) that means any perceived rejection is felt significantly more emotionally painfully than one would anticipate in someone who doesn’t experience RSD. (Look it up if this sounds familiar – I’ll write about it someday in more detail) So in order to help overcome this, I stand by the rule that just because I’ve emailed someone, they are NOT obliged to respond. Yes, we might argue it’s polite to respond if someone takes the time to email even if it’s a “thanks but no thanks”. But today, there is so much electronic communication flying around that if someone doesn’t respond to me reaching out without any prior communication, that’s OK. The same goes for myself, I can’t tell you the amount of emails I’ve had from individuals or organisations claiming they can get my site to the top of google listings – but that’s another story! The point is, I’m responsible for my actions. I can send an email, but I can’t control if someone will respond. And that’s OK.
The Challenge of Traditional Networking Events
Despite my preference for digital communication, I recognised the importance of diversifying my networking approaches, which led me to face-to-face networking events. These events, with their structured presentations and social mingling opportunities, initially seemed like daunting arenas for someone who experiences social interactions differently.
The very idea of stepping into a room as a “business woman” felt alienating at first. The expectation to perform a role, to seamlessly fit into a mould of competence and confidence in an unfamiliar environment, was a bit scary! However, my approach shifted as I attended more events. I found that focusing on presentations and engaging in conversations about other people’s work allowed me to bypass my nerves and connect over shared interests and passions. This realisation was pivotal; it wasn’t about selling myself or my business, but about forging genuine connections and sharing knowledge.
Finding Comfort in Authenticity
One of the most personally transformative aspects of my networking journey has been the embrace of my neurodivergent identity. Accepting and celebrating this part of myself has not only alleviated the pressure to conform but has also enriched my interactions. I’ve learned that networking isn’t about changing who you are to fit into a predetermined professional box; it’s about finding and creating spaces where your unique perspective is valued.
This acceptance has fostered a more relaxed and authentic approach to networking. By focusing on connections rather than impressions, I’ve found it easier to engage without the mask that many of us feel compelled to wear in professional settings. This mindset shift has led to meaningful friendships, collaborations, and driving towards a sense of belonging within my local business community. I still feel I’ve only explored the tip of the iceberg, but importantly, it’s a start!
A Message of Solidarity
So to my fellow neurodivergent business owners and professionals, know that you’re not alone in your networking challenges. The journey towards comfortable and authentic professional interactions is ongoing, but it’s one worth embarking on. Each conversation, each event, each email is a step towards a more inclusive and understanding business environment.
And to those in my local area or beyond who resonate with these experiences, my door (and inbox) is always open for connection, collaboration, or simply to share in the journey of navigating the business world as our authentic selves. Together, we can redefine networking to be an inclusive, rewarding experience 🙂