This might seem like rather an odd pairing of topics, but bare with me!
This last week I delivered two training sessions for the parents and carers of children who are supported by Neurohubs; a wonderful service that works with families of autistic children. One session was about parent/carer wellbeing and the other was about exploring and understanding executive function difficulties in children, and there was definitely a crossover identified in that often, parents of neurodivergent children are often neurodivergent themselves so have experienced the same barriers as their children – both in childhood and adulthood.
Balancing the responsibilities of parenting or caregiving can be challenging, especially when dealing with executive function difficulties. Recently, during a training session focused on the wellbeing of parents and carers, many participants recognised their own executive function challenges. This article explores the importance of supporting parent and carer wellbeing, understanding executive function difficulties in children, and how these issues are interconnected.
Understanding Executive Function Difficulties
Executive function refers to a set of cognitive processes that help individuals manage themselves and their resources to achieve goals. These include skills such as working memory, flexible thinking, emotional regulation and self-control. Difficulties in executive function can manifest as problems with organisation, time management, planning, and maintaining focus.
Executive Function Difficulties in Children
Children with executive function difficulties often struggle with tasks that require planning, organisation, and self-regulation. Common signs include:
- Trouble starting and completing tasks
- Difficulty following multi-step instructions
- Forgetting important details or losing items frequently
- Struggling to manage time effectively
Impact on Parents and Carers
Parents and carers of children with executive function difficulties face unique challenges. Managing their child’s needs requires significant effort, organisation, and patience, which can impact their own executive functions especially if they are neurodivergent themselves. The stress and demands can lead to burnout, anxiety, and decreased wellbeing.
Interconnected Challenges
During the training session, it became evident that many parents and carers experience similar executive function difficulties as their children. This connection highlights the need for strategies that support both the child and the caregiver. Improving executive function skills in parents can enhance their ability to manage daily responsibilities, thereby creating a more supportive environment for their children. Here is a summary of some of the strategies I shared in the sessions;
Strategies for Supporting Wellbeing and Executive Function
- Set Clear Goals and Prioritize:
- Encourage setting realistic, achievable goals.
- Break tasks into smaller, manageable steps.
- Use tools like checklists and planners to stay organised.
- Create Structured Routines:
- Develop consistent daily routines to provide stability.
- Use visual schedules to help track tasks and time.
- Practice Mindfulness and Stress Management:
- Incorporate mindfulness exercises to reduce stress and improve focus.
- Engage in regular physical activity to boost mental health.
- Seek Professional Support:
- Consider working with a coach or therapist specialising in executive function difficulties.
- Join support groups for shared experiences and strategies.
Supporting the wellbeing of parents and carers, along with understanding and addressing executive function difficulties, is crucial for fostering a nurturing and productive environment and looking after our wellbeing. By recognising and addressing these interconnected challenges, both children and their caregivers can achieve better outcomes and improved quality of life. For more information and resources, get in touch!